June 11th, 2013 around 6:45pm
Permalink | wanna Reblog? | reblogged from: missgingerlee
Suppose a man makes unwanted social advances to a woman in, let’s say, a restaurant or theatre, and she eventually has to tell him loudly or angrily to get lost. She is the one who will be perceived as rude, hostile, aggressive, and obnoxious. His verbal aggression and invasiveness are accepted and expected; her rudeness (or mere curtness) in getting rid of him is noticed and condemned. One of our great myths is that a “real lady” can and should handle any difficulty, defuse any assault, without ever raising her voice or losing her manners. Female rudeness or violence in resistance to male aggression has often been taken to prove that the woman was not a lady in the first place, and therefore deserved no respect from the aggressor or sympathy from others.
source:

D.A. Clarke, “A Woman With a Sword” (via ellielamothe)

Relevant all the time, but especially this afternoon. 

(via missgingerlee)

This happened to me last night on Twitter. A dude got all demanding, ordering me around, it was aggressive and rude. But I was the one called threatening and a bully because I told him to fuck off and that I was reporting him for spam (his aggression was about a commercial product so it was spam by definition.) I had three different women DM me asking why I was cussing out some tech dude trying to “help” me. IDEK.

(Source: wretchedoftheearth)

June 8th, 2013 around 3:46am
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When the white knight knows so little about his damsel in distress, how does he expect to rescue her? When she turns around and tells him to call her “Ms.” and to stop telling her what to do, will he be outraged at her ingratitude? When she says she’s quite happy wearing a traditional outfit, thank you, but could she please get maternity leave, will he snort in disgust at his charge? When she wraps her head in a veil and stands up for her Islamic prayer, will he throw up his hands at her inability to throw off Islamic slavery? When she says why thank you for your help, but I need my husband out of Guantanamo and my son out of /your/ Musharraf’s jail, and then I’d like to open a Qur’an school for girls—what will he say then? When she says she’s got her own ways of effecting the revolution, and it doesn’t involve selling out brown men to America, will he decide against trying to rescue her after all?
source: Shabana Mir, How Not to Rescue Muslim Women (via eibmorb)

(Source: anrawrasaurus)

June 5th, 2013 around 12:42pm
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fatbodypolitics:

redefiningbodyimage:

Marilyn Wann discovered this ad in her hometown and shared it on her Facebook page after posting a letter next to it, complete with an open list for signatures, that states:

This ad promotes negative stereotypes and prejudice about weight, race [and] class. Children deserve respect [and] joy. That’s what we think.”

(The physical list has since been taken down/removed by an unknown source.)

Some of her followers (notably Lynn Novak) also discovered that the ad included a heavily photoshopped photo that included darkening the little girl’s skin and fattening her appearance, replacing the milk in her hand with a packet of juice.

You can also see the original image on their homepage:

http://www.ccfc.ca.gov/parents/

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Now, I work in the advertising world. I sit in a gaggle of creative people who are directed to do things like this by clients, or who may genuinely feel there is nothing wrong with the harmful perpetuation of stereotypes this sort of work represents.

But I know better.

Labeling foods as “healthy” and “unhealthy” is inaccurate, especially when these messages of ill-health are being directed correlated with images of fat bodies, feeding into the kind of hysteria and fear of obesity that breeds hate and body shaming.

The bottom line is that different foods, drinks, and sugars effect different bodies in different ways.

If corporations and government organizations want to have a discussion about health and sugary drinks, that’s one thing - but there is no doubt that these messages can be expressed without pulling fat bodies into the equation, or feeding into harmful stereotypes about fatness and health.

There is so much more to be said about this ad regarding implications about diabetes, class, and race - But I will save that for those who may be better equipped to add to the conversation.

- Haley

It is no coincidence that government agencies (and diet companies) are now targeting communities of color with “obesity prevention” campaigns. The photo/ad above is only one example, but what you see are agencies going into these communities and instead of trying to solve systemic racism or poverty, which has a far larger impact on health than body size, they are only pushing to eradicate fat people. 

This is aside from the photoshopping of the original image to create a child that not only looks older, darker and cartoonish is incredibly dehumanizing, fat phobic, and racist.

-Amanda-

Some more commentary about the First 5 California ad that I reblogged last night. I added and updated my commentary to this RBI post from what I put up last night.

around 1:45am
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marilynwann:

The photo with milk is from First 5’s main website. It accompanies a multiple-choice question about the nutrition benefits of milk. (NIne essential vitamins and minerals! Does the milk industry fund this program?) The photo with sugar is from a First 5 ad that says, “‘Less sugar’ still has too much sugar. Sugary drinks like juice, sports drinks and soda can cause obesity. Choose milk and water instead.” Setting aside the fact that scientific literature is contradictory on this claim about sugar and weight… Prejudice about race, class, and weight are not public health messages, they’re public hate messages. Children deserve to be protected from this kind of damaging fearmongering. A Health At Every Size® approach can help people of all sizes (and all ages) reclaim our bodies, our eating, our physical activity, and our health, free from the totally unnecessary poison pill of weight-loss goals.

marilynwann:

The photo with milk is from First 5’s main website. It accompanies a multiple-choice question about the nutrition benefits of milk. (NIne essential vitamins and minerals! Does the milk industry fund this program?) The photo with sugar is from a First 5 ad that says, “‘Less sugar’ still has too much sugar. Sugary drinks like juice, sports drinks and soda can cause obesity. Choose milk and water instead.” Setting aside the fact that scientific literature is contradictory on this claim about sugar and weight… Prejudice about race, class, and weight are not public health messages, they’re public hate messages. Children deserve to be protected from this kind of damaging fearmongering. A Health At Every Size® approach can help people of all sizes (and all ages) reclaim our bodies, our eating, our physical activity, and our health, free from the totally unnecessary poison pill of weight-loss goals.
June 3rd, 2013 around 9:14pm
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ghagiel:

Male Privilege and Transitioning From a Fat Woman to a Fat Man

I am a fat man. Once, I was perceived to be a fat woman. My transition has taught me a lot of things that I might not have otherwise engaged with if I had lived my life as a cis person. Transitioning really highlights male privilege and how society can treat you completely differently based on what gender it perceives a person to be. As soon as I started ‘passing’, I found I was treated with a respect that wasn’t often given to me as a woman. My personal space and boundaries were no longer violated, I was no longer talked down to, and people suddenly respected my right to privacy and my right to be left alone. I was no longer treated as if I simply existed for men’s pleasure.

Similarly, my body was no longer overtly criticised. Fat women are disproportionately targeted in Western society. They are subjected to public humiliation and discrimination every day, simply because of their bodies. They are stared at in the streets, they are under-represented in media (and then, only as the butt of a joke), and they are targeted with verbal and physical violence.

Fat men are also at the mercy of some stereotypes – laziness being the most common. However, I can now exist as a fat man largely without comment. I can shop for clothes in most stores rather than being turned away at the door and told that they don’t stock my size. Clothing companies cater to my needs, considering my body type ‘average’ (even if I am on the short side). Most clothing stores that cater to men stock from small to XXL and many beyond that. Meanwhile, despite the fact that the average dress size of a woman in the US is a size 14, many clothing outlets aimed at women will not stock above a size 12. Some stores such as Abercrombie do not stock above a women’s size 10 whilst simultaneously stocking XL and XXL in men’s sizes.

This imbalance, and the effect it has had on my life and the way that people perceive me, is one of the clearest and most startling examples of male privilege and sexism that I have encountered. It all comes down to the patriarchal view that women are somehow obligated to make themselves attractive to men. That men are entitled to gaze upon and comment upon women’s bodies.

When I was perceived to be a fat woman, there was a real sense of not just disgust, but a poisonous, malignant contempt. People (most commonly men) commented on my appearance like I somehow owed it to them to be, in their view, attractive. Like I was breaking some kind of cardinal rule because I was happy with my body without their approval. Now, in complete contrast, I am barely given a second glance.

Occasionally, I still face discrimination as a fat man, but it’s not as vehement, societally sanctioned nor pervasive as it once was. My treatment has changed simply because of the way that society perceives my gender. This is male privilege in action. We live in a society that has built a whole industry on bullying women for not being what is considered ‘attractive enough’ to men. Think about that the next time you want to stare at a fat woman on the bus.

Michael Young

http://www.therainbowhub.com/home/male-privilege-and-transitioning-from-a-fat-woman-to-a-fat-man/

ghagiel:

Male Privilege and Transitioning From a Fat Woman to a Fat Man
I am a fat man. Once, I was perceived to be a fat woman. My transition has taught me a lot of things that I might not have otherwise engaged with if I had lived my life as a cis person. Transitioning really highlights male privilege and how society can treat you completely differently based on what gender it perceives a person to be. As soon as I started ‘passing’, I found I was treated with a respect that wasn’t often given to me as a woman. My personal space and boundaries were no longer violated, I was no longer talked down to, and people suddenly respected my right to privacy and my right to be left alone. I was no longer treated as if I simply existed for men’s pleasure.
Similarly, my body was no longer overtly criticised. Fat women are disproportionately targeted in Western society. They are subjected to public humiliation and discrimination every day, simply because of their bodies. They are stared at in the streets, they are under-represented in media (and then, only as the butt of a joke), and they are targeted with verbal and physical violence.
Fat men are also at the mercy of some stereotypes – laziness being the most common. However, I can now exist as a fat man largely without comment. I can shop for clothes in most stores rather than being turned away at the door and told that they don’t stock my size. Clothing companies cater to my needs, considering my body type ‘average’ (even if I am on the short side). Most clothing stores that cater to men stock from small to XXL and many beyond that. Meanwhile, despite the fact that the average dress size of a woman in the US is a size 14, many clothing outlets aimed at women will not stock above a size 12. Some stores such as Abercrombie do not stock above a women’s size 10 whilst simultaneously stocking XL and XXL in men’s sizes.
This imbalance, and the effect it has had on my life and the way that people perceive me, is one of the clearest and most startling examples of male privilege and sexism that I have encountered. It all comes down to the patriarchal view that women are somehow obligated to make themselves attractive to men. That men are entitled to gaze upon and comment upon women’s bodies.
When I was perceived to be a fat woman, there was a real sense of not just disgust, but a poisonous, malignant contempt. People (most commonly men) commented on my appearance like I somehow owed it to them to be, in their view, attractive. Like I was breaking some kind of cardinal rule because I was happy with my body without their approval. Now, in complete contrast, I am barely given a second glance.
Occasionally, I still face discrimination as a fat man, but it’s not as vehement, societally sanctioned nor pervasive as it once was. My treatment has changed simply because of the way that society perceives my gender. This is male privilege in action. We live in a society that has built a whole industry on bullying women for not being what is considered ‘attractive enough’ to men. Think about that the next time you want to stare at a fat woman on the bus.
Michael Young
http://www.therainbowhub.com/home/male-privilege-and-transitioning-from-a-fat-woman-to-a-fat-man/
June 2nd, 2013 around 2:37pm
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PLEASE. ATTENTION. IMPORTANT. PLEASE. My followers from all around the world. This is the first time i’m asking for something THIS serious. And i need, we need your support. Turkish people, my people are standing up for their rights, after a long long time. First it started as a protest against a mall that will be built in one of our historical parks. But then it got bigger, it’s not only about the trees anymore. It’s about the people who got beaten, who got thrown tear gas bombs to their heads, who got intentionally hit by police cars, and killed. In here we are not allowed to speak are minds anymore, and media is not helping either. Help us spread the word, let the world know about what’s happening here. I’m asking, wanting you to reblog this. Please. Once you finish reading this, please reblog.

wendymabelaraneaprenderghast:

the-only-romance:

tomwaitsforme:

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PLEASE DON’T IGNORE THESE

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May 31st, 2013 around 10:38pm
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My Thoughts on TWoC CrowdFunding in Light of KOKUMO’s & Ja’briel’s Indiegogo Campaigns

janetmock:

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On the subject of crowdfunding…I have noticed that most campaigns don’t feature the intersections of race + trans womanhood.

It’s rare in fact that trans women of color (from low-income and/or rural backgrounds) ask the world for help. 

My personal outlook is that most of my sisters are vulnerable enough and that vulnerability isn’t something they broadcast to the world because frankly they do it everyday by existing, and often visible vulnerability negates the notion of daily survival.

To say that I am disappointed that KOKUMO is struggling to raise money for her TGIF Rally in Chicago and Ja’briel Walthour is struggling to raise funds for her medical needs would be an understatement. (I’ve shared both on Tumblr previously: KOKUMO Post | Ja’briel Post; KOKUMO’s actually garnered nearly 900 notes, yet still hasn’t garnered $900.) 

Combined, both campaigns have raised only $1200 - as of 5/31.

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I see numerous indiegogo campaigns from folks - operating in the world with varying levels of privileges - who raise money quickly and even have extra to throw a party.

The irony of the fact that those most in need in our community are least likely to ask for help and when they do they are met with silence is appalling.

We must all do better.

These two sisters are taking on the brunt and responsibility of their organizing and medical costs, while thousands of other trans women of color are engaged in survival sex trade/work to meet their varying needs, making them all the more vulnerable to police profiling, incarceration, high exposure to HIV/AIDS and of course violence.   

Let’s turn these campaigns + future ones around. Here’s how:

* Give

* Share these links on your FB + Twitter + Tumblr (ie: here’s a tweet from me)

http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/tgif-2013-rally/x/822237

http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/a-journey-with-ja-briel-raising-funds-for-transgender-surgery/x/822237

UPDATE: Help NY-based activist Egyptt too!

* Write about these glaring disparities in our communities. 

* Ask those who’ve launched successful campaigns to SHARE these campaigns.

* Visualize and help create a world of abundance where none of us would have to ask for help because everyone would have equal access to healthcare and non-profit funds, and that community would be more than a noun but a verb, tying us all together.

around 7:58pm
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sociolab:

collegenowsociology:

What does this infographic tell us?

Racism is institutional.

(Source: onlyexperiments)

sociolab:

collegenowsociology:

What does this infographic tell us?

Racism is institutional.
around 7:34pm
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Introducing “Go To These Conferences!”

gotothesecons:

Have you ever been reading blogs and come across a group of people waxing rhapsodic about the amazing learning experience they shared the previous weekend? We have.

Ever seen a bunch of folks tweeting with the same hashtag and wondered “where are they? This stuff looks fascinating!” We’ve done that too.

Do you want to get your chance to attend progressive, feminist, LGBTQ, reproductive justice or anti-racism focused conferences? So do we!

Go To These Conferences! was born to end the oft-heard refrain “why didn’t I know about that? I would’ve liked to have been there!” Our goal is to share information about upcoming conferences and events before they happen, to open up access, widen participation and deepen knowledge.

If you’re planning an event, presenting at an event or just going as an attendee, tell us about it (guidelines here) or give us a shout on Twitter. This is a truly crowdsourced project, we can’t do this without your help, so please let us know when you know, so we can let everyone know!

May 30th, 2013 around 6:55pm
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danialexis:

(Edited to make which is the reblog and which is me more clear, because that got messed up when I first posted this from my phone.)

“sourcedumal: A hearty ‘fuck you’ to all the cis women out here on that “I don’t want a trans woman in the bathroom because of penises” bullshit. Because we don’t fucking do genital checks at the fucking door. And the only reason you have this mentality is because you hold on to the bullshit notion that you can “TELL” what a trans woman looks like based on dehumanizing stereotypes.  “


So here is a thing I have always assumed some other cis women think too, but I never actually asked another: I have experienced enough harassment, stalking, and general fear for my safety at the hands of cishet dudes that I *want* trans* women to be able to use the women’s room. Because I actually worry about what might happen to a female, female-appearing, or clearly-in-transition person if zie/she were to encounter a particularly troglodytic dude in the enclosed “man-only” space that is a men’s room. I have seen what the intersection of homophobia and trans*phobia and misogyny does to anyone who appears not to conform to rigid ideas of cishet-normality, and if sharing a bathroom with trans* women gives them any sliver of added protection from that, then sharing is literally the least thing I can do.

(Source: sourcedumal)

May 28th, 2013 around 3:52pm
Permalink | wanna Reblog? | reblogged from: kateelliottsff

kateelliottsff:

The Problem with ‘Boys Will Be Boys’

For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.

No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:

“You know! Boys will be boys!” 

“He’s just going through a phase!”

“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”

“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”

“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”

I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”

She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.

It was so tempting.

He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.

She had to keep her building safe.

Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.

His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.

Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.

I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.

Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning.  How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?

There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.

There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.

Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”

The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement.

(Source: saltandsugarsearching)

May 26th, 2013 around 10:32am
Permalink | wanna Reblog? | reblogged from: kittyjimjams

feuervogel:

sexxxisbeautiful:

redupnyc:

Pissed off about how condoms are used as evidence of prostitution in New York?

***If you live in New York State, fill out this form to send the postcards above to your elected representatives.***

Full info about the no condoms as evidence campaign in NY here.

This message brought to you by the Red Umbrella Project, a peer-led org in NYC that amplifies the voices of people in the sex trades through media, storytelling, and advocacy programs.

Ugh this is scary and horrid.
Nope we don’t live in a police state NO SIR.

New York friends, make a fuss.

Please note that this is directly linked to NYPD’s “stop and frisk” program which vastly disproportionally targets black and brown people. In terms of condoms = prostitution, that is largely poor/black/brown/queer/trans and carrying condoms. This has an exceptionally detrimental impact on QPOC and especially TPOC. Being afraid to carry condoms - or having condoms stolen and destroyed by cops without an arrest, as though they’re contraband in themselves - because of this is putting people at risk, whether they’re sex workers or not. It’s unconscionable and cannot continue.

May 24th, 2013 around 7:48pm
Permalink | wanna Reblog? | reblogged from: stfuconservatives

liberalsarecool:

The “me first, you nothing” GOP resume standard.

liberalsarecool:

The “me first, you nothing” GOP resume standard.

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